“You’re a straight white woman, You don’t know shit about getting bullied, you don’t know fuck about what we’ve gone through…”
THANK YOU I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO FIND THIS VIDEO FOR AGES.
Woah….hold up. This boy is cute but misguided. Gaga’s own sexuality is not really relevant to all the reasons we criticize her. If she says she’s bi, that’s fine. Everyone gets to define their own sexuality and it’s not up to us to police whether someone’s identity matches up with their dating habits.
I mean, yes, there is a phenomenon of people cynically claiming queer identity for the purpose of marketing in the entertainment industry (remember T.A.T.U?). And yes, it sucks.
But there are so many reasons to detest the hypercapitalist garbage that Gaga puts into the world. It wouldn’t be any less disgusting and ridiculous if she were a lesbian.
Cute, AND socially conscious? Holy shit look! It’s a gay chupacabra!
Dear Lady Gaga fans,
1) Shut up.
2) This is from 1984.
3) Shut up.
Sorry, the video won’t play on Tumblr—click through to see it on YouTube.
(Top comment on the You Tube thread “Gaga will copy it this year.” Written seven months ago.)
1984 wasn’t that long ago, people!
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Today marks the end of the 2011 Rochester NY Gay Pride festivities that have been going on for a week.
I admit, I attended the Parade and the “Music Festival” that followed and even had some fun with great friends while I was at it.
But it made me think (as does most things the Gay community does/says).
Our “Founding Fathers” - if you will - would be ashamed. Look at the pictures posted. The first from the Stonewall Riots of 1969, and the 2nd of a modern day Gay Pride parade. What happened?
Many will argue that its progress. But point B (Modern Gay Pride) is not in the direct line of point A (Stonewall). It’s some anomaly of Civil Rights. How did fighting for equal rights and a place in THE community become flaunting our sexuality and further removing ourselves from the communities in which we live?
The veil that was hiding us from the public eye was lifted now some 42 years ago, and yet we’ve managed to do a complete 180° turn. We are no longer hidden within society as a community that was rejected. We’ve managed to reach a point where we reject EVERYONE else apart from our own - and even a large part of our own - and call it Pride.
I call it flaunting. And it’s detrimental to all of us.
Believe it or not, there are people out there besides me who endorse a sort of “acclimation” into mainstream society. Not an exemption. What good are we as a community if the only thing we support are ourselves?
We’re worthless to everyone else in the world as far as they know. Sure, you and I both have jobs that touch every walk of life. I work in an Auto Body Shop. I love my job, my co-workers respect me, and it’s not because I am a Gay Man. It’s not even because I am a Gay Man working in a vastly Heterosexual White Male environment. It’s because I do good work, and I work my ass off.
Using my occupation as a small scale example, imagine if I were the Gay Community and the rest of the shop were the rest of the world.
Do you see how this works? I am a productive member of my team because I support them, and they support me.
So I propose this. To all of my fellow LGQBT people (and allies, of course!), lets do Pride a little different next year.
Rather than getting sponsored by Grey Goose Vodka, lets skip drinking excessively for an entire week, put away the Pride Flags, rainbows, glitter, martini glasses, tight clothes and radical hair and do something PRODUCTIVE for a week. Why don’t we show the community that we are more than just self gratifying alcoholics with a penchant for remixed pop and angry lesbian music.
Lets become part of the community where we live. Get out there and volunteer your time to a cause more in need. Visit an elderly living community, help a struggling family with yard/house work, clean up your city (God knows Rochester needs it), go to the animal shelter. Get our faces in the paper without the headline “GAY PRIDE PARADE”. The LGBQT community unified under shared experiences and hardships. You and your community also share them. Help us by helping them.
Send a message to your city saying “I want to be here” rather than “I deserve to be here”. We don’t deserve anything if we aren’t willing to return the kindness to someone seeking the same.
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Thanks to my dear Mae, whom I miss dearly and will be texting tomorrow to entertain her whilst she occupy hell, I will have a nasty blister tomorrow due to barefoot running. And not even Vibram Five Finger barefoot running. I’m talking skin to stone dust trail barefoot running.
Relationships fucking suck.
I can say that because I have never been in one where the wasn’t someone else. Or attempted to be in on where the wasn’t someone else. I always get cheated on. In the one case that I wasn’t cheated on and the single case where I terminated the relationship, that person later drove me to the edge of my restraint and I almost broke my promise as a Martial Artist to never partake in violence due to anger.
Kevin: Cheated on me with Mitch.
Mitch: Cheated on me with Mike 1. Yes, thats that same Mitch.
Mike 1: Cheated on me numerous times.
Mike 2: Dragged me (As well as two other people) along for a year, decided to date me, then cheated on me.
Jeff: Cheated on me then moved to NYC with the guy he cheated on me with.
Dave: Cheated on me with Corey.
1.5 year gap in relationships because I was at my breaking point of self esteem.
Rob: Cheated on me with who knows who.
Jason: Only one who didn’t cheat on me. But his voice and self righteousness irritated myself and my friends. He then opted to use my deceased Mother against me in a petty argument via text. Thus causing me to nearly drag him out of the bar and beat the shit out of him.
Jeff: Same Jeff as before, broke up with Matt and moved back here. We started talking. My hopes were for closure after 3 years. Well… That didn’t happen. Instead I fell for him again, but of course there is someone else he wants more.
To all of you I say this:
Relationships are the most over rated, destructive wastes of times I have ever been involved in. Of course I am bitter. My ego is all but annihilated and I am left thinking to myself that the past 8 years of failed relationships MUST be because there is something wrong with me. It’s not fun feeling this way, and I have to seriously resist the urge to revert back to my teenage ways of coping - which are incredibly self destructive. My very few close friends, my two dogs, and my awesome new job are making a valiant effort to keep me from drowning. So far so good with that.
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I traded a desk near the windows for this? You’re damn right I did!
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So while taking a little break after 2 hours of teaching Taekwondo this morning, I was bombarded by Lady Gaga on Fuse. It appears that they are running a WEEK LONG “celebration” of Gaga. Who said gays don’t have power in media?
I watched a couple of her old videos and realized why I sort of liked her from 2008 - 2010. While her music was nothing of substance, it was entertaining and I still respect her as a performer. She was interesting to say the least.
My work conversations with Mae - which are some of the deepest conversations I have had in quite some time - allowed me the opportunity to write my thoughts down and analyze them critically. Things started to click.
Things started to change.
Dare I say… “I” started to change.
I’d like to clarify my recent dislike for Gaga:
I love that she is bringing the GLBT community to the forefront of Pop Culture. While Pop Culture is generally made up of quick moving fads, the exposure is a start. So props to you, Gaga for that.
There are other ways - albeit more difficult ways - to bring this small community into the spotlight.
Polarizing an already fractured community isn’t really productive. There is more to our community than my glitter loving, eye liner wearing counterparts. There are those of us who for years have enjoyed living in general peace. While I haven’t denied my sexuality since I came out at 16, I was also never questioned about it. I now have to fight a war that I was exempted from for so long by people who I am supposed to be allies with. I’ve never been accepted by a large part of the GLBT community because I don’t fit into a very small box. Gaga - you’ve now made that box transparent. Now the two sides of the Gay Community Coin are forced to look at each other in the eyes.
Perhaps that is what is needed to bring us all together. Maybe we need to be broken down to our cores, expose the wounds, throw some dirt and salt on them and rebuild from the start. I’d like to think that such an invasive tactic isn’t needed to unite a community that has been brushed aside from the mainstream for long isn’t needed.
Maybe I was wrong.
My hope for Gaga is this: Break away from the single part of the culture/community you are so relentlessly promoting to. There are so many more of us that, thanks in large part to you, are now facing a battle we had been able to avoid for years.
I’m in this now. So are you. My friends, family… Everyone is. We need allies. We need people who are going to stand next to us and fight, not exploit.
While I am sure Stefani Joanne Angelina Germanott will never read this - she should at least know there are so many more of us willing to join this fight if only we could find a common ground with someone who may prove to be one of our most powerful allies.
Pretty much a perfect song. Perfect because it totally explains how I feel right now.
*Shakes fist* Damn emotions! Worthless things…
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